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ghastly-h-crackers:

chombiechom:

lobisfemme:

dion-thesocialist:

I think tumblr has left a lot of us emotionally stunted. This is a great community for empowerment, catharsis, or coping, but those things aren’t recovery in and of themselves. Comparatively, they’re easy when compared to the painful self-reflection and real-world scenarios you’ll have to encounter on the road to true recovery. Not only does Tumblr not focus enough on recovery, but there’s almost a disdain here for the very notion.

There’s a lot of time spent validating everything. “Your symptoms are valid! Your responses are valid! Your depression is valid! Your coping is valid!” Well, yeah, all that stuff is definitely valid, and understanding that is important step in recovery, but it’s certainly not the final step. All that stuff is valid in the same way a baby chewing on a teething ring is valid, and there’s nothing to be embarrassed about if your recovery is still in its infancy, but Tumblr almost encourages you to stay there, to never grow out of it.

There’s a difference between what’s valid and what’s healthy, what’s best for you. I recently saw a post that validated people who stay in their room all day. Is that a valid response to anxiety? Sure. Is it a healthy response? Hell no, and there isn’t a person on Earth who can convincingly make the argument that the best thing you can do for your anxiety is to never leave your room.

Or how about those “how to care for a _________” posts? They’ve got some great tips there, and a lot of what they say is true, but you cannot reasonably expect people to coddle your issues, insecurities, or self-perceived inadequacies. Your recovery has to come from you. It has to be a difficult decision you make with yourself and carry through with because you need it. Your recovery can’t come from hoping other people will validate you.

No one should be ashamed of where they are in their recovery process, but there’s also no reason why you should be in the same place with your issues as you were in 2010.

Your final goal is not validation. It isn’t empowerment. It isn’t finding a way to get through the day. It isn’t being comfortable with your problems, nor is it accepting that they’ll never go away. The final goal is health. The final goal is happiness. The final goal is contentment. The final goal is recovery.

Bolded is mine. This covers a lot of things I hate about Tumblr, as their process of validating mental illnesses tends to make people believe that validating = curing. 

I think one of the things that struck me most unhealthy about Tumblr was the cries demanding people give “trigger warnings” before posting.

As is well known by now a few years ago I had my life come to a screeching halt by a complete mental breakdown that left me hospitalized for some time. The culprit was undiagnosed OCD, the grand-daddy of all anxiety disorders. Of all the labours in my life my recovery was the hardest and it is by no means complete and I don’t know that it ever will be. It is a daily struggle measured in inches.

Things that can trigger an anxiety or full blown panic attack in me are many and varied and sometimes remarkably mundane. It is a full time job for me to deal with these triggers. But one of the first things I learned in therapy is that job is mine and mine alone. It is not for my family nor friends and most certainly not for the world at large much less random people on the internet to protect me from being exposed to the things that can trigger my anxiety. It is for me to deal with my anxiety in a way that does not cause harm to myself. DBT and CBT (that is cognitive behaviour therapy, not cock and ball torture…) gave me the tools I need to do the work I must do. Isolating myself from my anxieties wasn’t the answer and demanding the world around me bend to deflect my anxieties is not only selfish, it’s unhealthy. Unhealthy for me and unhealthy for the people around me.

Now not every day am I the master of my own personal demons. There are some days I just need to lock myself away in my room. There are many, many times I have to pick and choose my battles. But in the grand sense I am making the effort to be on the move, onward and upward. I am carving out my place in the world where I can be as healthy and productive as I can.

Artist: Sosuke Yamazaki (CV. Yoshimasa Hosoya)
Album: Free! Eternal Summer Character Song Series Vol. 6
Track: Ashita e no Last Race
Plays: 2,312
Free! Eternal Summer Character Song Series Vol. 6
Ashita e no Last Race
by Sosuke Yamazaki (CV. Yoshimasa Hosoya)

(Source: anime-music-plus)

Posted 6 days ago with 218 notes
How Long is this Fic Really?: A Guide

professortennant:

Word count in the HP Series: 

Sorcerer’s Stones: 76,944 
Chamber of Secrets: 85,141
Prisoner of Azkaban: 107,253 
Goblet of Fire: 190,637
Order of the Phoenix: 257,045
Half-Blood Prince: 168,923
Deathly Hallows: 198,227

Word count in the LOTR Series:

The Hobbit: 95,022
Fellowship of the Ring: 177,227
Two Towers: 143,436
Return of the King: 134,462

chestnuthowl:

paopu-wayfinder:

How to play Kingdom Hearts II

  • put one finger over the x button
  • put one finger over the  button
  • PRESS BOTH REPEATEDLY WHILE VIOLENTLY SHAKING THE CONTROLLER AND HOPE FOR THE BEST

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oppakai:

hello, my darlings! i’m constantly telling you guys how much i love you, so i’d like to offer a big present to one of you lucky people! 

i’m doing a $200 EXO MERCH giveaway! yeah, you read that correctly. TWO HUNDRED DOLLARS worth of exo merchandise! anything from ebay or amazon counts, as long as it’s exo related! albums, clothing, jewelry, posters, nothing is off limits!!

the shitty edit above showcases just a small selection of some of the great stuff you’ll be able to choose from, and trust me, there’s TONS more. 

now this giveaway applies to followers only, so that means you have to be following me [for real like you won’t get away with it don’t even try]

rules:

  • you must be following me, (i will check!) since this is a special giveaway for my followers! please don’t participate if you plan on unfollowing after the giveaway. seriously, i know your tricks and you will not be considered.
  • likes do not count but you can like this post for reference of course!
  • giveaway blogs are not able to enter
  • 1 reblog = 1 entry
  • you can reblog this as many times as you like, but please try not to spam your followers too much ;;
  • please don’t delete this text or your entry will not count and you will be blocked
  • if you win, you must make a wish list on ebay and/or amazon and send it to me. 
  • i will use a random number generator to find the winner
  • i will give the winner 48 hours to respond before choosing an alternate winner
  • your ask box must be open otherwise i cannot contact you and i will choose an alternate winner
  • if you are under 18, please remember to ask your parents/guardians for permission!
  • you can choose as many things as you like, as long as it’s within the $200
  • this giveaway will end on OCTOBER 1st, 2014 (at 11:59pm EST)

if you have any questions regarding the giveaway, feel free to message me. have a wonderful day! kisses ♡

Artist: HATSUNE MIKU???

Track: Anaconda
Plays: 506,425

broderrickstrider:

make this go fucking viral

Artist: SHINee


Plays: 45,741

ikuitenshi:

Reason #1 why Shinee has ruined me and I can’t get into other groups.

Posted 1 month ago with 5,158 notes

Album: Free! ES, drama cd.
Track: Rin and Nagisa being cuties ♥
Plays: 26,181

romakoto:

If this is not the cutest thing, then I don’t know what is! (´ω`★)

Posted 1 month ago with 4,936 notes

rockerfox999:

flamingold2:

sailortits:

my favorite video of all time

REBLOGGING THIS AGAIN BECAUSE. CRYING.

cries

(Source: neydimneoldum)

Artist: Rin Matsuoka (CV: Mamoru Miyano)
Album: Free! Eternal Summer ED
Track: Free! Eternal Summer ED FUTURE FISH Rin Matsuoka Ed
Plays: 65,701

FUTURE FISH Rin Matsuoka (Mamoru Miyano) Solo Version.

(Source: rangerpumkim)

Posted 1 month ago with 9,111 notes